You do catch more flies with honey, but you know what – they’re just flies. They still taste bad. Even with the honey residue.
I called the aid office today - ugh. I got the soft cold shoulder. Very polite, very courteous, clearly down with the memorized analogies for “their side” of the argument, but very short on information. I asked if there was anything I could do to increase the award, if there were any discrepancies in the figures, etc. Essentially I got a soft “no, no, no, no” response. Then (kicker) I had to specifically ask about the self-supporting/Perkins loan option for the “helpful” person on the line to say, “Oh, yes, you can do that.”
In one sense, the blog is sort of an open letter to myself.
Here’s one open statement. If I am in a position to repay Georgetown for their grant money (in full), I will certainly do so and thus “replenish” the funds that they have offered me. Beyond that amount I will not give them one red cent, ever. If (as the plan goes) I use the LRAP program, and have, at some later date, the opportunity to pay back those funds, I’ll do so (putting back in what I’ve taken out.) However, again, I’d draw the line there.
Loyalty begins at home, kids, and it’s predicated on a sense of helpfulness and respect. It does not arise from an adversarial approach or via misguided parochialistic paternalism.
Well, off to run the "final" numbers and do some more thinking.
I wanted to publicly thank everyone who wrote into the blog or sent me e-mail on the subject.